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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

For the couple

Relationship counseling is not just for couples in distress.  It is for anyone who values their relationship and wants to make it stronger.  Whether you have specific problems to work on or a general feeling that things could be better, we can come up with a plan to get you where you want to be.  Services for couples include:

  • premarital counseling
  • marriage and relationship counseling
  • affair recovery (See Affairs)
  • marital enrichment
  • infertility and adoption issues
  • sexual issues

Come in to a safe and confidential place to begin this important work.

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Cockeysville, MD 21030
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Are you unhappy with the path your life is taking?

Do you want a better relationship with your spouse, with a significant other,
or with your children?

Are you afraid that nothing will change?

There is hope.

Every day presents a new opportunity to reshape yourself and your relationships into what you want them to be.
When you feel stuck or helpless, it often means you are too close to the situation to see it differently. Often it helps to consult with someone outside of the situation in order to gain a new perspective.
Trust Builders Counseling and Consultation, LLC is a Maryland based practice which provides individual, couples, marriage and family therapy. I also conduct talks and workshops at my office and in the community on topics including:

  • preparing yourself for a good marriage (premarital)
  • building strong relationships
  • rebuilding trust
  • affair-proofing your marriage
  • the transition to parenthood
  • parenting teens
  • planning a "good" divorce

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

   For the individual

We live in stressful times.  There are always things to worry about such as: finances, safety for ourselves and our familes, and the environment.  The computer age, which was supposed to make our lives easier, has made our lives more fast-paced and complex.  There seems to be less human connection and support.  More and more people are reporting symptoms of depression and anxiety.  Maybe you are struggling with these symptoms as well.

Sometimes life takes us down what seems like the wrong path.  Maybe you aren't sure how to get back on track.  Maybe you don't trust yourself to make the right decisions or to get in the right relationships. 

Sometimes we lose people who are important to us.  The grief may feel unbearable.  Maybe you don't know how you'll make it through another day.

Whatever individual issues you are dealing with, you deserve help from someone you can trust and who will have your best interests in mind.  I provide a safe and confidential environment for working on the issues together. 

 

 

12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

   For the family

Families provide us with some of our greatest joys, but also some of our greatest frustrations.  Every area in our lives can be affected when things are not going right in our family, or the family is undergoing a big change.  Family therapy can reconnect family members and decrease family stress levels.  Some of the most difficult challenges for a family are described below.

Problem behaviors:  There are many different reasons why children start acting out or get stuck in problem behaviors.  The goal of therapy is to get at the root of those behaviors and help the whole family create positive change. 

Adolescence can be a particularly difficult time in a family.  Parents often wonder who switched the little boy or little girl they knew with a moody, disrespectful tween or teen.  Some common problems that show up in adolescence are: talking back, lying, being overly influenced by peers, and not helping around the house.  Some more serious problems may involve teen depression, anxiety, and substance abuse.  Parents may struggle with how to communicate with their adolescent without resorting to nagging or yelling.  Family therapy can provide a place for everyone in the family to have a voice and work together on positive solutions.

Divorce: No matter what the reason for a divorce, there is no escaping some negative effects on the children.  Parents can help, however, in how they deal with their divorce and how they talk to their children about it.  Children often need an outlet for talking about their thoughts and feelings around the divorce.  Visitation and custody issues need to be worked out in the best interest of the children.   All of these are issues that can be addressed in therapy.

Stepfamily formation:  Something happens and you find yourself alone in raising your kids, maybe for a short while or maybe for a long time.  Then you meet someone and fall in love.  The two of you decide to get married.  Maybe that person has children as well.  Suddenly, you realize you are in the process of forming a stepfamily.  This is not an easy or "natural" process.  A lot of roles and rules need to be worked out.  Parenting styles need to be coordinated.  A strong foundation needs to be built.  The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than the divorce rate for first marriages, mainly because of the difficulty in transitioning into a stepfamily.  Family therapy can help ease this transition and help lay a positive foundation for this new family. 

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

Affairs

 

There are many different kinds of affairs and reasons for them.  Here are some of the more common ones that I have seen:

  • The bad relationship affair - when one or both partners are unhappy in the current relationship and seek connection and validation from an outside person.
  • The sexual addiction affair - when a partner has a problem with sexually compulsive behavior and seeks sexual gratification outside of his or her primary relationship.
  • The friend turned lover affair - when a partner starts turning more towards a friend for emotional support, and that relationship becomes more intimate than the primary relationship. This may turn sexual or may not.
  • The fantasy affair (or the Internet affair) - when a partner begins a relationship, especially on the internet, which often starts out as an innocent exchange.  But then that relationship starts to look better than the real relationship at home, because it is based on fantasy with two people always presenting their best sides to each other. 

Nothing sends a relationship into a crisis quite like an affair, no matter if it is sexual or emotional, one night or many years.  The person betrayed often has a traumatic response which may include:

  • complete lack of trust
  • difficulty eating
  • difficulty sleeping
  • recurrent thoughts about the affair
  • crying spells
  • anger outbursts
  • a need for detailed information about the affair to feel more in control

An affair will tear a relationship down to its foundation.  The couple then has the difficult choice of rebuilding or moving on.  The couples who decide to rebuild may create an even stronger relationship or they may flounder trying to pick up the pieces.  

If you decide to rebuild, affair recovery is hard work and you don't have to do it alone.  Let someone with knowledge and experience help you on your path.

If you decide not to rebuild, the person betrayed may still need some support in overcoming the intense emotion and self-doubt that arises from the affair.

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

Premarital counseling

Planning for a wedding is often a time of excitement and hope.  There are so many plans to make and details to work out.  The wedding day, however, is just the beginning of your life together.  Premarital counseling can help you start your marriage with the right tools for getting through the rough times and for getting even closer during the good times.  Premarital counseling can give you insight into the strengths of your relationship, as well as the areas that may cause the most problems in your marriage down the road.  At Trust Builders Counseling, I offer premarital counseling for couples who:

  • want to start their marriage with an advantage
  • need to meet the premarital counseling requirement of an officiant or religious institution
  • and/or want to avoid the pitfalls that most often lead to divorce

My premarital counseling is based on the extensive research on marriage of Dr. John Gottman at the Relationship Research Institute.  I also utilize the RELATE premarital assessment questionnaire created by the Marriage Study Consortium at Brigham Young University. 

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

hThe transition to parenthood can be one of the most stressful times for a couple, even amidst the joy of the baby's arrival.  Research by Dr. John Gottman shows that over 60% of couples report a significant decline in relationship satisfaction after the birth of a child.  Mothers may be at risk for a post-partum depression.  Fathers may also become depressed.

Trust Builders is proud to offer the Bringing Baby Home workshop.  This is an educational workshop developed  by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and based on years of research.  This 2-day workshop teaches parenting and relationship skills to pregnant couples and couples in the first year of parenthood.  Research has shown that benefits of this workshop include:

  • higher or maintained relationship satisfaction for the couple
  • decreased risk of post-partum depression
  • increased father involvement in parenting
  • increased coparenting abilities
  • improved parent-child relationships

Workshop offerings will show up in Upcoming Events as they are planned.  Click here to learn more information about the Bringing Baby Home program.

 

12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

What is a LCMFT?

A Licensed Clinical Marriage & Family Therapist in the state of Maryland is a clinician with specialized training in counseling couples and families.  To become licensed as a LCMFT, a person must have at least a Master's degree in the field of marriage and family therapy from an accredited college, as well as two years and 2,000 hours of supervised experience.

Are you required to see a LCMFT for marriage and family counseling?  No.  There are other qualified licensed professionals that also offer this service. In choosing a LCMFT, however, you can be comfortable in the knowledge that the person has a good foundation for working with couples and families.  Unfortunately,  there is no requirement of experience or training in Maryland for a provider to say they see couples and families in their practice . 

What are some of the other titles and licenses?

In looking for someone to help you in Maryland, you may run across some of these other licenses and titles:

LCPC - Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor

LCSW-C - Licensed Certified Social Worker Clinical

Licensed  Psychologist

Psychiatrist (MD)

Be an educated consumer. It is alright to ask your provider questions about his or her training and experience.  No matter who you go to for help, make sure they are licensed in your state.

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

  About us

jennJennifer Sober is licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Clinical Professional Counselor in Maryland.  She has over fifteen years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families.  She is a Certified Gottman Educator for the Bringing Baby Home program. She also has completed an externship program in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).   Jennifer has experience running therapeutic groups that include: women's groups, addictions groups, parenting groups, and Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. She has served as a youth group leader and mentor for middle and high school students in her community.  She also taught Psychology classes at Carroll Community College in Westminster, MD. 

Jennifer received her Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Auburn University, where she graduated Summa Cum Laude.  She is a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)and the National Council on Family Relations.  She is a part of the National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists.  She lives with her husband and two sons in Carroll County, Maryland.

Trust Builders Counseling and Consultation, LLC is located in Baltimore County and is convenient to: Cockeysville, Hunt Valley, Timonium, Lutherville, Phoenix, Sparks and Towson.  It is easily accessible off of I-83 for those as south as Baltimore City and as north as Pennsylvania.

  

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Client Forms

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12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

Upcoming Events

Coming Soon: Circle of CALM (Centered and Loving Moms) Groups for new Moms to help you maintain your identity, sanity, and relationships during the early years of parenting.  Call for more information!

If you are interested in the Bringing Baby Home workshop for your mom's group, birthing class group or other group and you have at least three interested couples, contact me for information on how I can bring this workshop to you!

12 Galloway Ave., Suite 2C
Cockeysville, MD 21030
Call or Text: 410-804-9404

Frequently Asked Questions

Although we can work together to try to engage the other person to come, sometimes the other person will refuse to be a part of therapy. A lot of good work can still be done to help a relationship or marriage with one person in therapy, especially since it is the most motivated partner that will come in. 

Often children and adolescents do not want to come into therapy.  I help them to feel more comfortable by emphasizing that we will not be labeling them as "the problem" because we will be focusing on the family as a whole.  I also make sure that they get something they want out of counseling.  In worst case scenarios where the child or adolescent really fights the process, I can work primarily with the parents on creating an environment of change in the home.

I have evening hours on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday nights.

I will fill out all of the necessary paperwork for you to get some reimbursement from your insurance plan.  Please call the customer service number on the back of your card to get further information about your "out-of-network" mental health benefits.

Typically, insurance does not cover marriage or couples counseling unless one person is identified as the patient with a diagnosable mental condition.  PLEASE KNOW THAT THIS IS THE CASE ANYWHERE YOU GO.  If you are using your insurance, please be an educated consumer and find out from your provider who they have identified as the patient and what diagnosis they have used to get insurance reimbursement.

LCMFT means Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist, LCPC means Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor.

What is a LCMFT?

A Licensed Clinical Marriage & Family Therapist in the state of Maryland is a clinician with specialized training in counseling couples and families. To become licensed as a LCMFT, a person must have at least a Master's degree in the field of marriage and family therapy from an accredited college, as well as two years and 2,000 hours of supervised experience. (Click this link to see all of the requirements for a LCMFT.)

Are you required to see a LCMFT for marriage and family counseling? No. There are other qualified licensed professionals that also offer this service. In choosing a LCMFT, however, you can be comfortable in the knowledge that the person has a good foundation for working with couples and families. Unfortunately, there is no requirement of experience or training in Maryland for a provider to say they see couples and families in their practice .

What are some of the other titles and licenses?

In looking for someone to help you in Maryland, you may run across some of these other licenses and titles:

LCPC - Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor

LCSW-C - Licensed Certified Social Worker Clinical

Licensed Psychologist

Psychiatrist (MD)

Be an educated consumer. It is alright to ask your provider questions about his or her training and experience. No matter who you go to for help, make sure they are licensed in your state.

 

No.  At this time in Maryland, the only people who may prescribe medication are licensed medical doctors (MDs) and some psychiatric nurses (RNs).

Call 410-804-9404 or email jsober@trustbuilderscounseling.com .You will get a response within 24 hours.

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Resources

Medlineplus - up-to-date mental and physical health information from the National Library of Medicine.

National Institute of Mental Health

WebMD

 

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